delyss-soul:

People asked me this question many times. Other say that there isnt a difference. There is a difference between the two. A nice guy is very different from a good one. I will describe both sides.

First lets start off with the nice guys. Every girl wants a nice guy to an extent. We all know what a nice guy is. But for the purposes of this post I’ll describe. A nice guy is one who is not willing to hurt you, he does everything possible to make you happy. He listens and helps you out whenever you need him. He is willing to put up with youre shit, when no one else would. He would listen to your problems with your boyfriend or family etc etc. He genuinely cares for you and wants you to be treated the best. A nice guy is a guy who thinks you are the world, someone who he wants to be with.

Sounds good right? In actuality the nice guy seems good on paper. The problem with the nice guy is that he is too passive. He doesnt want to ruin a friendship, he doesnt want to get in the way. He plays the nice card most of the time, so it makes him look like the victim. He plays it too safe, he makes the girl the assertive one and allows himself to hurt for her gain. He says he gets hurt, but you cannot lose what you never had. Even if a girl is immature he stick around, because he likes her. A nice guy sets himself up for failure, because he knows when he likes a girl, she is already preoccupied with other guys or etc, and he still plays it passive.

Now on to the good guys. Good guys are the same there treat you well and all that jazz, but there are a few specific actions they do that rival Nice guys. They listen, they do most of the things the nice guys do, BUT they call you out on youre bullshit. If there is a problem that you complain about all the time the good guy tells you to stfu and get over it. They arent scared if they offend you, because they know youre stronger than that. He wants the best for you, but does not want to baby you. He is assertive with his decisions, and knows what he wants. He genuinely cares for you but if you dont care for yourself he isnt willing to put up with your immature ass. He knows better.

Wow assertive right? But not really. The fact that he is assertive and doesnt bullshit makes him seem like the player type. Because it seems like he talks to a lot of girls at one time. His no tolerance for bullshit makes him drop girls who are really just fronting to test him. So he may have found the ONE but was too assertive to keep her. He passes girls quickly one after the other. He may seem like an asshole or rude, because of the way he expresses things. Girls may be put off because the fact that he doesnt care if a girls feelings get hurt by what he says. He is assertive if he doesnt get what he wants he’ll drop you.

So the point is that these two types can get girls, but they have their flaws. In my personal preference I am not a nice guy, nor am I a good guy. I fluctuate between the two, but leaning more to the good guy side. There are hella guys to baby a female, Im not going to be one of them. And to those nice guys out there, keep up. Just be assertive. And the good guys out there, be more courteous.

Just Elaborating.

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